Step one: Ditch the entire idea of “resolutions.” “I recommend making a commitment, not a resolution,” says life coach Alfred James. “Resolutions tend to be really broad: I’m gonna lose weight; join a gym; cut out smoking; eat more healthily; quit drinking; change my job, etc. The truth is, there’s nothing unique about them, so why do they need to be resolutions? The only way to truly change is to make a solid commitment and to accept the suffering that comes with it. Creating sustainable, positive change takes hard work—it means being uncomfortable sometimes.”
With that in mind, James says there are ways to effect actual, positive change:
- Identify what you want improve on, and make a commitment to doing something every single day that will help you make positive change. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other.
- Don’t focus on negative things that have happened in the past, or what potentially might become an obstacle in the future. The past and the future can’t help you—all you have is now, so make the most of it.
- Talking of which, don’t compare yourself to others, or concern yourself with how much better they are, or what they have you don’t.
- Don’t make excuses: The rain isn’t an excuse not to go for a run. Overcoming challenges is part of the suffering that you have to go through.
Well, we never said anything about it being fun, did we?