Our most recent Dollar Shave Club Debate asked the question: Should your partner leave you alone when you’re in the bathroom, or is sharing that space just a given? One DSC employee summed up the general consensus well: “Pooping is an alone time activity.” A recent survey we conducted, however, begs to differ.
According to the survey, 17 percent of people—that is, 18 percent of men and 15 percent of women—poop in front of their significant other at least once a week, and only slightly over half of those polled said they never take care of business in front of their partner. That means a whopping 44 percent of people drop a deuce in front of their significant other at some point over the course of the relationship.
With this in mind, it’s probably not so shocking to discover how many people pee in front of their partner on a regular basis: According to the same survey, 51 percent of people—that is, 50 percent of men and 55 percent of women—pee in front of their significant other at least once a week. A paltry 20 percent of those surveyed said they never pee in front of their partner. In other words, a lot of couples view the bathroom as a pooping and peeing free-for-all.
While we’re all for bonding with your partner—even if that means watching each other poop or pee—we previously reported that spending too much time together in the bathroom can put a strain on relationships:
“In bathrooms, we create completely natural noises and smells that society has created shame around. We also get naked in them, often in our most primal, un-groomed states,” explains Stefan Walters, who trained as a marriage and family therapist in San Diego. “All of this makes us feel vulnerable, so we may feel particularly affronted when it seems like that sacred space is being disrespected.”
So next time you’re considering making use of the bowl while your partner’s brushing their teeth, consider asking them if they’re totally okay with that—or just, y’know, waiting until they’re out of the bathroom to drop a floater. Your relationship may depend on it.