If children had their way, you’d be building blanket forts, scaling trees and playing something called Four Square with them for approximately 14 hours a day. As a grown adult with a desk job, however, it’s so logistically unrealistic that if we gave in, we’d all lose our...
Many have discussed at length the reasons men stay eerily quiet during sex (they’re embarrassed and/or deeply repressed) and the reasons why women sound eerily loud during sex (to make you get off faster and/or because they’re taught to be pornily performative). What’s less discussed is why some people...
Recently, Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez did a little bartending to raise awareness for upping the federal minimum wage — still $2.13 an hour, unchanged since 1991 — for tipped workers. A former bartender herself, she slung drinks and slices of pizza at a New York restaurant to point out the...
The single biggest predictor of a new dad getting hit with paternal depression — which involves a persistent slew of awful feelings such as sadness, lack of energy, worry, moodiness or changes in appetite, occurring within a year of the baby’s birth — is if his partner gets hit...
It seems counterintuitive that working out could lead to less interest in sex. Shouldn’t being fitter and healthier make you more interested in activities that reward a fit, healthy (and buff) bod? And that is the case — to a point. Research has found that men who...
The term “silent treatment,” chillingly, comes from 19th-century prison reform. Instead of physical punishment or grueling work, which was believed to do nothing to truly alter the character of the criminal, prisoners would no longer be allowed to speak to each other and rarely be spoken to. They’d be...
It’s pervasive in what you might call the Success Literature: Powerful, accomplished people know something you don’t. Not just about sleep habits and morning routines, but also the company they keep. In short: Successful men aren’t friends with losers. Their time is too precious; they can’t afford to lose the...
I have a friend whose now-ex-boyfriend had an elaborate ritual he performed after taking a dump. She affectionately referred to it as “a** rag.” He kept a bag under the sink with a special washcloth in it. After wiping with toilet paper, he’d take out the rag,...
Listing your love of chess and skeet shooting and your days as a summer camp counselor on your resume may seem like a no-brainer. Such pastimes help distinguish you from hundreds of other applicants who know how to use Microsoft Word and also demonstrate specific skills that...
Some truths hold fast no matter how much society changes: Sleeping with or kissing another person, once or a lot, when you’re committed to an exclusive relationship with another person, is something most of us see as cheating. Others not so much: The invention of social media...
It’s well understood that couples face any number of battlegrounds upon shacking up to supply the abode with goods and victuals. Among the most notorious is shopping at one popular Swedish furniture store, where psychologists have deemed the place a literal “map of a relationship nightmare,” where...
The Irish goodbye, the shamrock shuffle, ghosting (in the sense of leaving a party without saying bye; not cutting off someone you’re dating), or what I like to call the secret bail, is nothing new. Essays have abounded on the internet for the last few years both...