Kenneth Tam is an artist who (among other things) makes videos of men — men that he finds on the internet and then pays to do awkward, intimate, absurd things on camera. These videos are amazing. For one of his most recent projects, Breakfast in Bed (which is currently...
There has never been a time in my life when I wasn’t competing. I played T-ball, soccer and basketball as a little kid — eventually getting into tennis and even a little tackle football with friends. My family would play Trivial Pursuit, Connect Four, Sorry! and Life, and that’s...
The timing was almost unbelievable. About 18 months ago, I found out my dad had been cheating on my mom. About six months later, my husband found out that his mom had been cheating on his dad. How my husband and I each found out was indicative...
The facts don’t lie: Trying to make friends as an adult is terrible. People often want to talk about the finish of various craft beers; the jokes you make more often than not have the word “fistula” in them; everybody who’s nice to you at the gym...
If you’re a long-time member of the Club, you may have experienced a bout of déjà vu while reading through the July Bathroom Minutes magazine. More specifically, the “Name That Firework” feature probably left you thinking, “Have I seen this before?” And rightfully so. We did, in...
“I have no interest in retirement,” Leon Dash says from his office in Gregory Hall, on the University of Illinois campus in Urbana-Champaign. At 72, Dash has, by all accounts, lived an exceptionally full, successful life— one that more than merits a comfortable retirement. Dash spent 30...
Do you bottle up your anger when you argue with your spouse, only to let it out in occasional outbursts of rage? Prepare to have debilitating cardiovascular problems when you’re older. Or do you shut down when confronted with conflict, “stonewalling” your significant other? Musculoskeletal ailments may...
Last fall, economist Angus Deaton won a Nobel prize for discovering that $75,000 was a magic number. Specifically, a magic salary: It’s the “happiness plateau,” his studies concluded, above which further increases will have minimal impact on a person’s day-to-day sense of well-being. When Deaton and psychologist...
We talked to psychologist Dr. Bernard Golden, author of Overcoming Destructive Anger, about what you can do to help calm down when anger strikes, and some of the reasoning behind it. (Hint: it’s not them, it’s you.) And … exhale. Breathing deeply is one of the most...
The YouTube video opens with a photo of a 14-year-old boy, painfully thin — 5 feet 7 inches, 98 pounds. His ribs and collarbones protrude. His head of dirty-blond hair, swept to one side, looks too big for his neck. His mouth is agape, as if he’d...
Turns out the dude who used to make you uneasy during Ms. Swanson’s third period American Lit class — you know, the guy who sat in the corner; with the black jeans, black Converse and Judas Priest T-shirt; the one who knew about Black Sabbath long before you discovered...
Self-labeled sex addicts often speak about their identities very clinically, as if they’re paralyzed by a scientific condition that functions the same way as drug and alcohol addiction. But sex and porn “addiction” are NOT the same as alcoholism or a cocaine habit. In fact, hypersexuality and...
